There’s no doubt that as parents, we want to give our kids the best we can. Education, health, a variety of experiences, clothes and entertainment.
I know as a parent, I’ve sometimes felt the pressure to get my kids more than they need. The bigger Lego set. The fancier doll. More exciting adventures. Sometimes I think I should be giving them more of my time, attention and resources.
Whatever if is you give your child, do you ever sometimes, just sometimes feel an incy-winsy bit resentful of the opportunities you’ve given them? Do you ever wonder, even just for a microsecond that you wish you had the opportunities as a child that you’ve given your child? It’s not a feeling of resentment towards your parents and how they parented you (for the most part).
I’ve been pondering this lately. I’ve noticed a huge increase in the opportunities we’ve given our kids (cue Monty Python’s Four Yorkshiremen sketch here!). Do you sometimes think perhaps your kids should be more grateful? More rounded? Is there an ‘expected return on investment’ when it comes to your children?
Teaching gratitude is another topic all together, and one I’ll leave to the parenting experts.
Over the last year, we’ve been blessed to have season tickets to some theme parks on the Gold Coast. It’s given me the opportunity to interact and
judge people watch a great deal of parents and children. The look of excitement as they come through the gates of the theme park. The high level of expectation both parents and children have for the day. The deterioration of the children and the frustration of the parents as the day lingers on.
I know this has been a bit of a rambling blog, but I’m interested. As a parent, have you ever felt resentful that your children have had more opportunities than you? Have you ever thought they may have done more with the resources (time, material goods, experiences etc) you provided them with? As a child, have you ever sensed a resentment in your parents when they’ve been able to provide you with an experience that they never had as a child?
Share your thoughts in the comments!